Time for a Community Vacation?

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AllGoodHere

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NO it's not a free vacation offer if you sign for a time share. Now that that is settled.....Those of you who've been around for a while know the necessity of taking a break now and then - it's about that time for me again. I'm posting this because I think everyone should consider a community vacation from time to time because it is difficult to attend to your health if you are spending much of your free time at the forum. And I have to admit, the high anxiety stuff gets to me sometimes, and the repetitive nature of the posts......most of us who stick around recognize this. We try to lend a hand but when it gets to be a bit much we withdraw (some forever and some for weeks or months). Usually someone takes up the slack as there is a constant feed of members here and amazingly, most are really good and considerate people (look out for that small percentage that aren't though!) I will still respond to PMs for those who have been in contact that way. Best of luck to all.
 
Is it just me, or does this site really seem to be slowing wayyyyy down? We rarely hear from Kit, Basso only pops in occasionaly, now we've lost Simon (to no fault of his own), Runnergirl only occasionally comes on. I'm sure I'm missing others, now you two are talking about a break (which I'm not implying that a break is not well deserved), but a bunch of scared newbies, will be so lost without a voice of reason from very experienced BFSers, wont they? Like I said, I'm not trying to imply that a break is not something that is good from time to time with this forum, among others I'm sure, but it just seems like we are loosing alot of our important experts. I'm also not saying that others are not important, just a little mental fog today, and not everyones name pops into my head as quickly as others. :D) Dont leave us :D)
 
The goal is for other people to step in and be the voices of reason for a while. AllGoodHere and I have been doing it for far too long. There's really no need for anybody to stick around this site for more than 6 or 7 months or so. You really only need about 6 months to convince yourself that you aren't dying. After that it's really kind of stay around to help out or sh*t and get off the pot. Otherwise I think it's kind of pointless to stick around.Ray Romano (in his stand up act) has a wonderful bit about having a pair of two year old twin sons. He says that having one two year old is bad enough. But now imagine another one standing right behind him, cheering him on. "Go ahead! Throw that! Smash that! You can jump from there!" That's why twins are so hard to deal with. No matter how hard you can control one of them, there is always one just like him right behind him enabling him to keep going.Well there's a wonderful parallel in there to hanging around bfsforum.com. Because like it or not, we all have health anxiety. You (or me, or anyone) can argue it all you want, but we're all nuts in the head because we can't think about health issues logically. We have this disease where we mentally jump from step A immediately to step Z, without any thought that there are 24 far less scary outcomes in the middle. I'm not saying this is specifically you, I am saying this is specifically all of us. We are all like that. I am as bad at that as anyone (although I have spent 3 years working very hard to try to get better.)Well, hanging around bfsforum.com is exactly like having a pair of two year old twins. Because no matter how hard you try to get past your health anxiety, there he is, another one just like you, standing behind you, cheering you on. You can get better, you can learn to chill out, and BAM, one day your evil twin will come around and egg you right back into your old habits of health anxiety. It has happened to me, it has happened to ItsOK, it has happened to Basso, and one day it will happen to you.Unfortunately, this is the last place a health anxiety person should be hanging out on a 24 hour basis.So yes, one day soon I will leave, and one day soon I expect somebody to take my place and sort of be "the board policeman". I don't really wish this role on anyone. But I do know it is necessary, because for every 10 newbies, you need to have one or two "oldbies" to sort of maintain order and keep the peace. Somebody is going to have to step in because I'm not going to be here for very much longer to do that. Who knows, maybe it can be you.Remember, the last thing a healthophobe needs is ten other healthophobes behind him, cheering him on. I have said this countless times to people in email, I have advised people never to get too close to other people on the board, and it's really just about time for me to take my own advice and follow AllGoodHere's lead. Long story short... old timers don't leave the board because they are trying to be a**holes. They do it because that's what you are supposed to do. They do it because they are smart and because they are trying to take care of themselves.
 
RunnerGirl, you are such an awesome soul. Thank you for popping in tonight, LOL, your ears must have been burning, :LOL: Thanks for letting me and others know that you're still here. Take CareRobynn :D)
 
RunnerGirl, LOL, I knew as soon as I took that post down someone would say something. I took it down because nobody had said anything yet, and I was like "these people are really going to think I am crazy if I keep this on up" so I removed it. I have been trying to convince myself for months that its all in my head, so you just saved my sanity tonight, because there is really something up with my handwritting. Should I put it back up? Thank you for remarking on that, you just made feel sooooo much better. Take Care Carrie.Robynn :D)
 
I am still here Robynn, but must admit I dont frequent the board as much as I used to.(have been visiting everyday). I guess I am getting to the point in accepting what i think I have ( I have had no formal testing), and the fact that it is most likely 'benign' Time is the healer and it has been 10 months since I started twitching. Having said that that i am here to share my experiences to hopefully alleviate others fears. I have got a lot a good stuff from Simon and Mario, so hopefully they hang around for a little while more. I still need the support on my 'bad' days, as I still get plenty of those but less than I used to!cheersRodger
 
Hi Rodger, and thank you for letting know that you are still around, I was saying to myself "Wheres everyone going" LOL, Since I was so convinced for so long that I had some serious neurological disease, I feel like I'm still in the accepting phase of BFS, but so much closer than I was. Thanks again Rodger, stay in touch. and take care.Robynn :D)
 
Here is a little fact that probably none of you know about, unless of course you become an unafraid old-timer. Ready? OK, here it goes. After a certain length of time, let's say six months, because that's what Mario said :LOL: , we veterans get sucked into the Off-Topic Lounge. Sweet, eh! There is a bar and a lot of pot smoking going on. From that vantage point we look at the newbies and laugh and know that soon they'll be in here with us, drinking and getting baked. I think star-gazing goes on and LisaLM has a jacuzzi where people like to hang around in the nude. Yeah, in that lounge we're all buff and hot as hell. Every once in awhile we figure "let's visit the board." So, we cut our way through the fog of joy and the thunder of laughter to let you know that you are all amazing people and that you are going to live long lives. Uh...need I say more? C'mon, we need some new blood in the Off-Topic Lounge, and if someone knows where my fetching fur-lined thong is, the one that has the bottle opener attached, well, you better let me know. It's getting hell to crack those Corona tops off with my teeth.Latest tune on offer in the Lounge. Yeah, I listen it's Haddaway, doesn't mean I'm g-ay. So pleathe thstop thaying that! :p Basso
 
Oh, yeah, and this track too. GLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! OK, I guess I am g-ay. LMAO Mario, where the hell is the macho music? And I don't mean YMCA.Part of getting over bfs is to not take yourself seriously. Take the F out of bfs and you've got BS and that's about what it is and what all the serious doctor faces are. OK, time for a bike ride in the rain.Basso
 
Basso, I thought the Glee stuff was 'OK' ...must be my 15 YO girl side coming out... :LOL: Well I'm a country music fan...including Carrie Underwood...but dont tell anyone!what was the original post, some thread diversification! Apologies to all..all Bassos fault! ;) cheersRodger
 
Mario you can totally have Backstreet Boys, but keep your mitts off of my N Snyc...I'll never give up on Lance. I call him Lance Bass-o. :sick: Rodger, Carrie Underwood, are you freaking kidding me? Bwahahahahaha. Shania Twain all the way, dude! Gotta stick with my Canadian peeps.Nothing like a little ABBA as I'm tearin' things up in the wilds on my four-wheeler. I always drive drunk, of course, and yeah, I shoot off my paintball rifle a few times too. Just thinking of that sweet lil' seventeen year old sets what testosterone I have left to flowin'. Yee haw! Oh, and at this moment I'd like to say RIP Jimmy. If ever there was a second best four-wheeler to me, it was him. He got all carried away the other night when I started playin' La Vida Loca, on the craziest ATV sound system ya ever did hear...well, he stood up to bust a few moves, but the tree branch was unmoved; guess he wasn't a fan. Jimmy's four-wheeler ended up in the creek, while Jimmy lost his head. :( Missin' ya man!Basso
 
Dang Carrie, you stole my playlist off of my Ipod :lolAnd you are not alone on your disco boat, I loooooove The Bee Gees, I even made my daughter do a dance routine to one of there songs for her 5th grade talent show (Night Fever), she had the whole Auditorium up clapping and dancing with her, they loved it. :D)
 

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