Thankful for Support on ALS Concerns

Auroraroxx

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Hi everyone :D)
Firstly, I would really like to thank everyone who has taken the time to write on this board, the relief that I and my partner felt when we found this was indescribable. She was sure she had ALS (MND, in Australia) and to make matters worse, my best friend had just been diagnosed with ALS. Her (best friend) symptoms are definately NOT the same as what any of you are describing - she started tripping over last november - we actually had a giggle about it one day - and was diagnosed this Feb - the giggling stopped. :(

Anyhow, my partner started to have severe calf twitches around the same time - she has always had some trouble with cramps at night on and off - but this was different, it looked as though she had a load of worms under her skin, very bizzare..... she was very frightened and i eventually encouraged her to see a neurologist - very coincidentally, it was the same neurologist that my friend was sent to.... to cut a long story short, the neurologist quickly told us that shedid NOT have MND or ALS - these muscle fasciculations were quite normal, a bit annoying we could quite comfortably go home and not worry.

Well, we did that and now my partner is starting to get more twitching, around her back, forearms and constantly in the calves. I can see that although she is incredibly relieved that it is not ALS/MND it really gets her down but she is reluctant to 'whinge' about it given the assurances by the neurologist.

I would love to hear from anyone that has suggestions on what I can do to support her? Any things have have worked for you? Thank you so much for reading this and for any suggestions you may have. Thanks Monika
 
Monika,

You said the key word - SUPPORT. Listen to her when she is scared, comfort her and don't call her a hypochondriac. This twitching can cause even the most sane, logical, intelligent person to the brink.

Just be there for her!

Ginny
 
HI
This is very real to the person with it.
Ironically I have asthma -which has killed more people than BFS
yet am I concerned about it .. NO... Why ??? I don't know...

You can rationalise BFS Sooooo easily.

Youre anxious
You twitch
that's it ......NOT to the person with it . It's like a dripping tap.It's not a loud noise but it drives you nuts !

You don't know why it started and you hope it will end .

So what can you do ?
Well first you are going to hear alot about it.
I'd say 99.9% of people on this forum have generally similar symptoms,some are quite severe ( benign -by which we mean harmless and doesn't affect your life ??? i'd like to question that one !)
The person needs to talk about it , until they rationalise it which I feel takes months or years. Again like a dripping tap eventually you accept it and ignore it - so it doesn't affect your life.

Never think the person is making it up we'd all dream of waking up tomorrow symptom free.

I have to have humour about this ...
For instance a women at works daughter is taking her driving test.

' Well the big days tomorrow...and Emma getting a bit twitchy' She said

Tell me about it ! I thought :LOL:
 
Dear Monika,

As a BFS sufferer - to me, simply being there to support and listen to her is the most significant thing that a partner to do. Especially since most people (even docs) have a difficult time understanding and even believing how significantly this crazy syndrome can effect a person.

My partner has been very supportive by just being the amazing person that she is - she talks with me (very patiently :) and listens when I'm having bad/anxious days about all these crazy things that are going on with my body (Even though she may throw in a hypochondriac comment or two)..hehe. It's very hard for people to experience certain symptoms which can overlap with symptoms of very serious/terminal diseases. It's only been a few months that I have been experiencing the twitching/shaking/bussing, etc - so I am by no means a BFS veteran but I am in the process of begining (hoping) to believe that this is really what is wrong with me - hoping that BFS is the actual diagnosis and not one of the scary illnesses.

So all I am really trying to say is continue doing what you are doing - it's so wonderful that you created a profile on here to ask questions on how to support her. It's very clear to me that you are truly there for your hunny. I like it when my partner aske me how she can support me/help me at a given moment, since it can really change depending on my emotional state, mind-set, symptoms being experienced at the moment, etc. There are many times that I don't want to talk about anything related to my symptoms and just be with her, and experience things together related to us, our life, the things that we love.

Your and/or partner are welcome to contact me if you (or she) feel that it would be of any help.

You are awesome Monika.

Wishing you and your partner all the best,
Tanya
 

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