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Jen, I agree. I enjoy reading your posts and you truly do help alot of people. I know you have encouraged me directly and indirectly. So........don't take things personally. We would miss you. AMy
 
Umm Jenn, you shouldn't give any thought to comments like that at all! Don't let yourself be influenced like that. You are a strong woman and please just do as you please!
 
JENN,

YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO POST AS OFTEN AS YOU WOULD LIKE/NEED....THAT IS WHAT THIS BOARD IS FOR. DON'T LET ONE PERSON KEEP YOU FROM BEING PART OF THIS GROUP.

TAKE CARE,
GARY
 
Jenn,

You have no idea how your posts are appreciated here. You sure helped me a lot so please don't let something like that affect you.

If you feel you have done enough and you want to move on, then I will respect your decision.

You will never post to much!!!

Martin
 
Hi Jen,
I'm Daylily (and new here)and I can't tell you how much I appreciated your response to me yesterday. I was feeling very frightened and you calmed me down so much I actually had a good night's sleep for a change! If people as caring as you are forced off this forum then perhaps it's not a place I wish to visit anylonger either.
 
Again - and I could be wrong - I don't think he was "offended" and I don't think he meant to "criticise".

I think he read your post and was worried that you were becoming obsessed with your symptoms to the point where it was having a very negative effect on your state of mind.

I think he was trying to say, in a light-hearted way, turn off the computer and enjoy life, because you DON'T have a fatal disease and by worrying about every tiny symptom you might be trapping yourself in a vicious circle. I'm not saying Dale's is a good approach; I'm not saying it's a bad one. I am saying that it's hardly an uncommon approach at bfsforum.com.

You've obviously put a lot into the forum and helped many people. Please don't over-react to what (I read as) well-meaning (albeit maybe a bit blunt) advice.
 
Jenn,

Don't you DARE leave! You're a thoughtful, helpful member of this board.

Gary, perhaps we should start a new "topic area" for people suffering from severe anxiety due to BFS.

Ginny
 
Jen, I think you get the record for most post's TO a post in the shortest amount of time so that shows you how much people appreciate talking to you. I too think that Dale's post was meant as more of a "go out and enjoy yourself post"...you know, the Mars/Venus thing....it may not be how us ladies would have said it (or some of the men....don't want the men mad at me now!!) but I think it was not meant in a bad way. I think sometimes people look at you, or me , or anyone else here in fact and think ...they are so young and spending all this time worrying when they could be out enjoying themselves. Believe me, when I was in my 20's and having bad panic attacks I was A MESS for close to a year and nothing anyone said made me feel better. My family thought I was nuts and got pretty sick of listening to me.

I have a little story about a client of mine- since none of you know where I live I think I can get away with telling this and no one having any idea who I'm talking about. Anyway, one of my massage clients was recovering from non-hodkins lymphoma- early 20's. Diagnosed late. Lost her ability to have children from the chemo. I started seeing her about 1-1/2 years after she was diagnosed. Anyway, she (naturally!) had very severe health anxiety- that was all she could talk about. Now, 2 years later, the thing she wishes most is to have those 2 years back. What made her health anxiety better? Time- that is literally all. And in time, I'm sure you'll look back on this time in your life and think hmmm, that kind of sucked. I use this example to say that even for people with severe health problems, the anxiety does goes away with time. And though right now, you, me and a whole lot of other people on this board are hypersensitized to every little ditty our body throws at us, in time, that will change. It may come and go but it won't always be like it is now.

Wow, this was a rambling post! So I'll sum it up...

Dale didn't mean it that way. Things will get better, some good days, some bad, but bottom line is a meteor hasn't blown up the earth yet so that's good. And, go to the off-topic lounge- I've got to post something funny about Basso .... [/i]
 
Shelley,

Thanks for your response hon I do appreciate it, I really do. I understand the tough love thing here I really do BUT telling me how many posts i make and then making another smartazz comment in the second reply how many I made that day surely was meant to be other then trying to care for one. I am sorry but I have to disagree with you on this one. If that was the case he would not of thrown in how many posts I posts and then to come back with his second statement verified that to me. If he was trying to say I need to get off here then why the 800+ posts, why did he look it up, why was he counting how many posts I made that day? To prove I had anxiety? I asked a question about BFS and still have not had it answered but instead it has turned out to being about anxiety again. I do believe there is a way to handle a person anxiety person and a non anxiety person and this is not it. It has nothing to do with a man vs. woman thing here, it has to do with having heart, it has to do with having your questions hopefully answered or experiences we all have with BFS. Dale did mean it this way and all he had to do was not answer nor read it if he is sick of me posting. He can say that he said it for tough love but like I said his smartazz second comment..."ohhh ..ok..if you say so," says it all, he was more worried about how many times I posted. Anyway thanks to all I really do appreciate your kind words to me and Shelley I am not saying this in a mean way to you at all hon, please do not take it that way.. With that said, get off this post all, you have better things to do on here..God Bless..Jenn
 
Ok, just one more from me because I found Sue's Caption post in the off-topic lounge and have to go laugh some more (check it out- I didn't see any posts from you on there....but then again, I've only looked at the first few).

I think if anyone here truly had a problem with the amount people posted, they wouldn't be on this board. They would be outside fishing or posting to the Cross Stitch board or something. If anything, I get on and think, hmmm- where is everyone?
 
Nope, I'm not offended by your post. I just find it odd that you CHOOSE to turn this into WWIII - and so close to Remembrance Day too.

I was merely responding to your post about upper back, neck and shoulder pain. Mine acts up when I'm on the computer a lot. It was only a suggestion to try to HELP you.

You seem to have a special knack for misinterpreting other peoples posts to you. Try to think of the glass as being half-full...we're not all out to get you.

Good health to you.

Dale
 
What are you saying or meaning about Remembrance Day Dale? First of all my back, neck and shoulders are not just a pain like you have been leaning over on computer all day, if you would of read my post. As far as you simply just wanting to help me by saying that then why did you not just say it like you just did? Me taking Basso's post wrong has nothing to do with your rude comment that YOU made and as far as me making this into WWIII I did not I was saying there is no point in posting if people are going to count when I ask a question...Jenn
 

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