Overcoming Mental Stress of Serious Illnesses

Many of us can understand where you are mentally. I, too have family with MS & Diabetes. The thoughts can consume you and place a dark cloud over you that you just cannot shake. The only advise I can give is stay busy...do anything, just do something. Also, the days following a good nights sleep are always much better. I have found that Tylenol PM helps me get to sleep on the difficult nights along with watching TV or reading a book till you finally fall asleep.
 
relax all will be fine...we have all been to that dark place...but you get to a point when you ask yourself...is all this worrying helping me? you have to take a look at yourself and the people around you that you might be affecting with this obbsession that something is wrong..like your family...its very selfish to obsessivly worry about yourself.. be brave...it takes time,,,,but believe me someday youll look back on yourself...and say what the ?? was i thinking
 
StephG22,

I UNDERSTAND that "dark place" I've been there, and still visit, (not willingly) on occasion.

Have you had a thorough exam by a doctor? If not, do so.

If you had a good exam, then talk to someone. It helps.

I also understand the fear of developing a disease. I have issues with that, too. It's easy for people to say keep positive, get on with life, etc. It's not always so easy to do. Feel free to email me, if you need to talk, okay? Hang in there ;)
 
Wow...StephG22 I hope you're feeling better after reading the replies you've received. I know that I'm not even having a 'bad' day, and I feel very uplifted. This board is tremendous!!!

I think it's pretty certain that everyone on this board has been to 'the dark place' many times over. We all need help every now and then. This board has been so valuable to me...especially because since I've found this place, I no longer allow my worries to be visible to my family. My hubby and my kids really don't deserve it. It's wonderful to have this board as an outlet for getting the understanding and support we need.

I hope you get a great night's sleep and that you're on the path to a good day tomorrow!!! Hope to hear from you then!

One quick note of advice from me: force yourself to smile throughout the day--even when doing the most mundane of tasks. It will brighten your mood more that you realize. Also, if you haven't already, run up to the book store and get some books about anxiety. The jelly-legs are a huge symptom of anxiety. I don't consider myself as 'one who has anxiety'...but I obviously do because I have many of the physical symptoms. It's a nasty bugger---but it can be tackled!


Amy
 
Thanks everybody! I keep all this away from my kids (17 months & 4 years) & I think I appear normal to everyone else (except my husband who I ask to list the reasons why he doesn't think I have to worry 4 times a day). I don't talk to many friends about this because they may say the wrong thing. One friend told me my tongue & calves looked atrophied on one side. I worry about my rubbery feeling leg because that started before all my worries. I should mention that I have seen a neuro and have had a relatively normal emg. Besides brisk reflexes and twitches no other abnormalities were found. I'm getting an MRI on Mon. I wish I could get some answers. I wish so badly I could just say "I'm fine, nothings wrong" and be happy. It's funny that someone wrote in 30 years I'll look back on this time and wonder what I was thinking. How I am wasting my life etc. That's the same advice I always used to give! I just want to be healthy and happy! I went to a shrink today & she told me she thinks I have MS & then handed me a script for paxil.
 
Hey.. i took paxil and it made my symptoms a hundred times worse...i got real bad myoclonus,, whole body buzzing,,, foaming at the mouth while asleep and seizures in my sleep...it was the first thing prescribed to me when i first went in concerned about my twitches...
 
StephG22-


Last year about this time my symptoms began presenting themselves and I went through the fear of MS first, then the symptoms began to mimic the dreaded "A" word.

From all I have read in trying to get myself through the fear, a DECREASE in reflexes is usually what MS patients experience. I looked to my step sister's situation to encourage myself, even IF it was something I did not want to have. She contracted MS in her mid 40's and is doing fine! She had one episode about 5 years ago where she lost use of her hand and now she is back to work at a bank using her hands all day with no recurrence. She even had Rush Presb. look over her brain MRI and it was very conclusive that it was MS. What I am saying is, don't panic, illnesses impact everyone differently, but I think your psychiatrist is WRONG!

I, too, have written many times on here about my reflexes going to "brisk" from normal. Someone else on here who used to post went to MAYO clinic and faxed me a copy of his report. He asked if brisk relfexes meant anything to them with an otherwise normal exam(no weakness) and the doctor wrote absolutely not. So, while I still wish my reflexes were normal, I try not to perseverate on that issue. His reflexes eventually went back to "normal" but he says they have gone back and forth and stress can do that like the "fight or flight" syndrome.

Just for the record, the first psychiatrist I had told me if I had the "A" word, I would not be able to talk, and she did her residency in Internal Medicine! My gyne told me it usually begins with swallowing troubles. My point? They were wrong as the Bulbar form is rarest of all!

We are all here reading and hoping each person's story of a "all clear" can reassure our own situations. I know for myself that it is a cyclical situation that pulls me from one side of the emotional scale, back to the other, when I allow MYSELF to fear. That tells me that no matter how much reassurance I get, I have to be in charge and that is *beep* hard some days.

Don't beat yourself up, stay positive and know there are thousands of us slaying the dragon daily. Keep us posted on where you are with your progress. DId you actually have a full work up yet? It might really make you feel better.

Peace,

ariza_z2021
 
Hi. Thanks so much for your posts. I took the Paxil and had a really bad reaction & was bedridden w/weakness, fatigue, dry mouth (making it difficult to talk & swallow), mental fog, Extreme nervousness etc. You can imagine what that did to me! I was a mess. I had an MRI. It showed suspicious for demyelination. I'm still waiting for bloodwork. Hopefully it will be lyme. I've had it twice, my son had it, my dog had it & my father gets it every summer. I'm still shaky & weak. When I smile my face muscles tremble. Even the roof of my mouth was tingling. I would love to take some AB's and have all this fear behind me!
 
StephG22-

Good Lord, girl, where do you live? I think they should come out with a medication like they have for pets where you rub it on the skin, it absorbs, and deflects the fleas and tics!

Does lyme always present itself with a bulls-eye rash? Just wondering....but it does sound like an almost sure-bet that your symptoms are congruent with your environment and past history. Hang in there!

ariza_z2021
 

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