beensuggested
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I was thinking about alot of the posts on this forum lately and there seems to be quite a bit of questioning and questioning again and quick repeat visits to the docs to be reassured. I have seen it before where you leave the docs office and feel wonderful, you all post your happy news that you are fine and not dying and you all do your happy dance and we happy dance with you and then ....... 
a day or a week goes by and you are still twitching or achey or feeling weak and then you start self testing or you google 
and then you start posting....and you ask the same questions you had answered already...and then we answer them and then you move to another part of the board index and you ask it another way and eventually you dig yourself right back into the little hole you just happy danced out of. Y'all know who you are!!! (which is pretty much everyone here at one time or another.)Sooo, here is what I suggest to my patients when we need to discuss complicated issues or a diagnosis that they are unsure of. I have them bring someone in. A family member or a really good friend. Why, because a second set of ears is so important especially when we are trying to digest a lot of information or we have been very worried about test results. See it is human nature to have immediate relief with good news and then once we hear that sometimes we don't pay attention to the rest...that is where a second set of ears comes in handy. Sometimes we don't ask all the questions as a patient because the doc seems rushed or we heard what we wanted...a second set of ears and another voice comes in handy here as well. BUT for patients with this condition which is just full of anxiety, even if we pay close attention and ask all the right questions, we happy dance home and happy dance for a bit and then....we start taking apart the conversation with the doc You know it's true..."he said that it seemed benign" so instead of honing in on benign we hone in on seemed and then we think hmmm seemed doesnt sound like sure which means that he probably meant that at the moment it is benign which means that it can become fatal at some point...sound familiar???? So I am recommending that you take someone with you to hear the results and who can remind you that the results were pretty black and white and there was not inflection in the docs voice or a discreet shake of the head or anything else to make you question your happy dance.Smooches,Kit
a day or a week goes by and you are still twitching or achey or feeling weak and then you start self testing or you google and then you start posting....and you ask the same questions you had answered already...and then we answer them and then you move to another part of the board index and you ask it another way and eventually you dig yourself right back into the little hole you just happy danced out of. Y'all know who you are!!! (which is pretty much everyone here at one time or another.)Sooo, here is what I suggest to my patients when we need to discuss complicated issues or a diagnosis that they are unsure of. I have them bring someone in. A family member or a really good friend. Why, because a second set of ears is so important especially when we are trying to digest a lot of information or we have been very worried about test results. See it is human nature to have immediate relief with good news and then once we hear that sometimes we don't pay attention to the rest...that is where a second set of ears comes in handy. Sometimes we don't ask all the questions as a patient because the doc seems rushed or we heard what we wanted...a second set of ears and another voice comes in handy here as well. BUT for patients with this condition which is just full of anxiety, even if we pay close attention and ask all the right questions, we happy dance home and happy dance for a bit and then....we start taking apart the conversation with the doc You know it's true..."he said that it seemed benign" so instead of honing in on benign we hone in on seemed and then we think hmmm seemed doesnt sound like sure which means that he probably meant that at the moment it is benign which means that it can become fatal at some point...sound familiar???? So I am recommending that you take someone with you to hear the results and who can remind you that the results were pretty black and white and there was not inflection in the docs voice or a discreet shake of the head or anything else to make you question your happy dance.Smooches,Kit
Take someone with you, then when you start freaking out again...talk to that person. They will be able to remind you of the important things that were said.