Blessings from my Sons: Mischief Managed

I realized that I have been a little bit B**chy about my troubles, twitches, spasms, etc. And when this all began I told my self that instead of always complaining that I would pick out the good things- This morning my 2 year old son threw my husband's cell phone into the toilet. My other son-6 years old- left all the pieces of Darth Tater out to step on and my infant threw up on me at breakfast- I was wearing black. I am the happiest woman in the world when I am with my kids and my hubby. There is something quite special in knowing all the words to every SpongeBob cartoon ever made. I hate that I allow this other stuff to get in the way of the most precious moments. I urge myself and others to allow yourselves to enjoy these moments. I don't assume that you don't already. Tomorrow I am going to my son's skating party and then we are going to hit a Bengals pinata- I'm a Steeler fan, ya know! I am so lucky to have these opportunities, to have my kids. The was a line from the movie Mermaids where Cher states that she can get pregnant by just hanging her clothes next to a man. Well, I know this is a little TMI, but that describes my husband and I (three kids in 6 years). Meanwhile, we hear stories of those who can't conceive and it seems so unfair- and it is especially so when I don't appreciate the gifts I am given. But I still can't believe my son is six, I feel old, but lucky nonetheless- what about you?

I know what you mean. Luckily, at this point, I am thinking your kids don't quite understand what you are going through and that is a VERY good thing.

I have 2 daughters, 1 is 12 and the other is 15. Well, at that age, they see, hear and notice everything...whether you want them to or not. Last night at dinner my 15 year old began to talk about her Biology class (she is in 10th grade) and she said they are learning about genetics (recessive and dominant genes). Well, she started to cry horribly and said she had talked to her teacher because she read about some genetic diseases and was afraid because "her mom has some of those symptoms". Her teacher sat and talked to her about what she thought I had and what were my symptoms. The teacher made her feel better and told her for her project, she wanted my daughter to write her paper about "what her mom had". I think this will be the first high school Biology paper ever written about BFS.

I sat last night and had a long heart-to-heart with her and she felt better. I told her I would help her get the info on BFS and then we could talk about it. Needless to say, I cried half the night, until about 3 this morning. I then realized what a toll this stuff has on my family andd I felt so horrible. I have been a bi*** lately because my symptoms have been on high gear and yesterday my hand was numb the entire day.

At that moment when my daughter started opening up to me, I realized how very lucky I am to have both of them and don't want to bring them down or upset them with my moments of despair. We don't think about how it affects them and how they notice things, even when you try and hide them.

Kiss your children, hug them, spend time with them.....It seems like mine were just born and here we are looking at colleges. They will be out of the house before I can blink an eye. :crying:

I am enjoying today with them putting up our Christmas decorations and trying to forget about BFS for just alittle while.

I am scared of turning my kids into hyperchondriacs like me. I am for some reason an anxious person. No one in my family has ever been a hyperchondriac that I know of, and when I was little my parents used to poke fun at people(behind their backs) who had anxiety as though they made it up themselves. I know they didn't mean to be like that, it was that their exposure to anxiety was limited.-- but my point is that if a parent is anxious, the children may be as well. I would never wish that on anyone. But, I anyway, it is good to step back and look at the things we are blessed with and try not to miss these because we are worried about dying.

Hi kateS:

It is okay for your kids to be hyperchondriacs because that is, or could be, the opposite of hypochondria. So your kids would feel invincible rather than vulnerable.

Do you know what was on the tombstone of the hypochondriac: "See, I told you so!!" )

Cheers,
Basso

You are right kateS, a political argument would bear little fruit. However, just to be clear, I am not criticizing any-ones motives, I have my opinion obviously, but I am only making the point that all successful society (superpowers) want/wish to maintain and broaden on that success. When the Romans were off fighting the Gauls; life in Roman society continued on unabated. As an English Lit scholar you will also be aware that all past successful societies have come to, usually, an ignominious end, due to the fact that they seldom took major stock of what they had, and what they had not.

BFS is a personal wake up call, before our end.

Cheers,
Basso